In the Bible, verse Matthew 6:22-23 it reads, "the eyes are the window to the soul"; many different poets have since used the famous quote including William Shakespeare. The meaning of this verse is that if you look deeply into a person’s eyes, you can tell who they truly are.
Eyes are one of the best attributes
of human expression because they can be direct and elusive, as well as show a
million different emotions in just one look.
There are many reasons why it is
important to look someone in the eyes when speaking to them. Looking into the
eyes of the person you are talking to shows respect for that person, whether it’s
a boss or a friend, it reflects that their opinion is important to you; sincerity
can definitely be felt through eye contact.
If you like someone in any
shape, way, or form, eye contact is significant because it shows you are
actually interested and listening to what they are saying. Eye contact can say
so much and show so many different things, it can reflect intimacy,
understanding, love, attentiveness and so much more.
I personally get so busy at work
sometimes that someone coming into my office for a simple question can irk me,
so when they do come in I keep on working hoping that not making eye contact
will show them I'm busy. It's an awful thing to do, I know, and I didn't
realize it until completing this particular deed.
Today, I made it a point to make
eye contact with everyone that crossed my path whether it was the mailman, the
stranger waiting in line behind me at CVS, a coworker or a friend. Not only was
it nice to take a breather and realize that I'm not a machine made to work and
I too deserve a small break, but it also reflected how good the person felt for
me taking the time to listen even if it was just to borrow my scotch tape. I
can't promise I'll always do what I did today, but I can promise to try.
Today's society consumes us so
much and we don't even realize it. Have you ever stopped while at a restaurant
and looked around? Most people sitting down are on their cell phones rather
than having a conversation. Most people are too busy at work to stop and have a
small chat. Most people at the grocery store or in the street are in too much
of a hurry to acknowledge another human being. Be that person that makes a
difference today and show people that you actually care enough to take the time
and look them in the eyes while they're speaking, even if it is your waiter
telling you the days special; I can guarantee you will make their day or even
their week by a tiny little gesture that takes no effort at all!
"Basic human contact – the meeting of eyes, the exchanging of
words – is to the psyche what oxygen is to the brain. If you’re feeling
abandoned by the world, interact with anyone you can.”©